How well do you understand?
If Tony Attwood had an aspie blog would you prefer his over mine? Do you prefer Doctor Daniel Amen’s. ADHD help over mine?
Before I mentioned Dysgraphia, Did you even know it existed? And if you did. Don’t you either have it? Or your teacher, or something?
Or what about Dyslexia? Before reading about it here did you know Robin Williams likely had it? If you did, I’m very impressed!
Before you read my page post titled “Some of my diagnosis’s”. Had you heard or atleast known of anyone with vaso-vagal syncope before?
Had you previously known ( before my blogs meaning) that Roscia had ANYTHING in common with PSD? Or for that matter ASD? Unless you have it or are very familiar with both probably not. Right?
I could go on for ages. But, I won’t. Some of the points here, if you haven’t figured it out yet. Is 1. I’m who I am partly BECAUSE of all of my issues. That’s not the same thing as them having me. I couldn’t due all this without them. 2. There are multiple ways people understand things. Or atleast a couple when it comes to disability. The deepest and most understood way, is through living with it. I don’t care if you have a PH D in something. If you don’t have it. Certain things regardless of diagnosis. You won’t understand 100 %. I’m not saying in any way shape or form that Doctor Amen or Tony Attwood aren’t very needed and valuable players.
They certainly are. But, can they tell you what an ASD shutdown feels like? Or how an ADHD person feels when there sensory needs aren’t met in the bedroom? Or exactly (In lay means terms, and socially) how being the class clown, feels like? Off course not!
To reinforce this isn’t about me, here. I’m not bipolar, schizophrenic, or have the ADHD Fire Type. So am I going to know these conditions like someone with it? No.
Just like Amen and Tony can’t know certain things I have as well as I do.
So the next time you have any interaction or communication (Or ideally before it) at all with others always ask yourself silently. What does that person or people know really well? With what perspective? And why or how is that perspective gained? Are they a special Ed teacher? A charter school teacher? A counselor? A social worker? Just a family member? Or what? And if you don’t know, ask. They’ll often appreciate it. Most like to be understood. And see others have interest to know them better. Buy asking, your showing, exactly that. That you care.
Once you have, if your forgetful, record the details about each person somewhere organized. And then. You’ll increase awareness within yourself.
And if you use the info- to your advantage. You’ll be far more understood, and will be practicing strong communication too.
This also means. Just cause we both might be Aspies, folks with ADHD, Dyslexics, or what have you. That doesn’t mean I don’t have issues you don’t have, and vise versa. Heck, I have 21 ! I know NO ONE with that many. For example, if you can right a book, with severe Dyslexia in 6 months. Congrats! That doesn’t necessarily mean, I can.
I have a piece (or perhaps a number of peices) of a lot of you in me, or part of me. Dyslexia could be a piece, ADHD anouther peice, Roscia, a different one, etc. So, to speak. But, like all adult puzzles. This puzzle has thousands of peices. And the painting/ picture in the end, is NEVER the same. It takes many.
And off course, those with co-morbid issues often can feel alone far more then anyone with a singular diagnosis’s of ANYTHING. So, please be understanding and aware of this, as hard, or as inconvenient, as it may be.
Thanks for reading.! Have I made myself clear?